By Laurie Israel —
I heard about Ted Lasso, the TV series, from many of my friends, who said it was wonderful and well-worth watching. The idea of a TV series based on a sport (soccer) did not grab me, so I did not pursue my friends’ recommendations. I was also disinclined to purchase a subscription Apple TV to add my beloved coterie of streaming services.
Then my brother suggested that I purchase the Apple Mini Home Pod, a powerful small speaker, to enhance by iPad experience. Since he’s my big brother, and since I (usually) trust his recommendations, I purchased it. And when I did, I discovered that it came with three months of free Apple TV. So I decided to give Ted Lasso a try. (It had the bonus of providing another binge-worthy series, “Bad Sisters,” also recommended by my brother, which I loved. I guess genes say something about tastes in TV shows.)
To put it mildly, I was bowled over by the Ted Lasso series. I watched (actually binge watched) all three seasons, and then eventually, watched the first season again, this time taking notes. The show, written by two of the leads, Jason Sudeikis and Brett Goldstein, among others, is a wonderful combination of “The Office”, “Forrest Gump” and “Mister Rogers.” And I learned a lot about soccer along the way.
In every episode, really almost every few minutes, there is a message that rings true about life, work relationships, friendship, and people in general. One can use the wisdom of Ted Lasso as a template for living, and it certainly has many lessons that resonate with me in my work as a lawyer and mediator.
Here are just a few. (More to come in future posts.)
- People are not what they seem to be at first. Everyone has their own personal story. All people (except villains, such the character, Rupert Mannion in Ted Lasso) strive for goodness. Leslie Higgins turns out not to be an effete toady. Trent Crimm turns out to be a sweet helpful and sensitive person, and not a rabid tabloid journalist trying to “get” his victim. Yet, Ted Lasso is what he seems, from the very beginning – a spiritual being sent to the miasma of the struggles of the world – in this case soccer team in turmoil. It’s a mess, affected by all sorts of interpersonal and external forces (including the owner’s post-divorce trauma). Ted Lasso is like an angel – no, maybe he is an angel. The series is about how a completely positive spirit can bring peace in peoples’ lives. (Spoiler alert — it’s not really about soccer.)
- Always treat people with respect. In Episode 1, Ted asks Nathan what his name is. Nathan’s job as a “kit man” is considered the lowliest work function on the soccer team. He thinks of himself is basically a nonentity, and is harshly and routinely bullied by the team. When Ted walks away after learning Nathan’s name, he says, “I love this kid.” Ted always makes everyone a better person. He motivates people through his positivity, and empathetic perspective. The next time he sees Nathan, when Nathan gives Ted a sports drink, Ted says to him, “You continue to impress, Nathan,” and Nathan murmurs, “You remembered my name!” Remembering someone’s name in an expansive sense means remembering who they are. In Episode 2, Rebecca Welton, the team’s owner, says of Ted Lasso, “The man’s just relentless – and nice!” Yes, he is relentless in his love of people, in spite of their imperfections and foibles. Kindness exudes from him, and yet his character is believable.
- Seek to maintain a positive outlook. In Episode 2, Rebecca asks Ted how his first day went. He responds by asking her what the smallest unit of measurement is. She says, “And yet, you seem undeterred.” Once again, Ted shows how a person with a good outlook on life and a strong sense of self combined with a measure of humility can function in the world when facing a setback.
- Don’t get into arguments. Ted puts a suggestion box in the team’s locker room to get some ideas for helping the team. Roy says “We’re in the middle and we’ve lost 3 out of 4. And you want to know if the snacks in the vending machine are tasty enough?” Ted responds (innocently), “Are they?” A perfect response. He did not try to counter Roy’s comment, but with handled it with a sense of humor. No one ever “wins” an argument. Arguments is a lose-lose situation.
That’s all for now, and this is just from watching the first two episodes of Season One. I’m looking forward to sharing Ted Lasso’s wisdom in future posts.
Published in a slightly different version on mediate.com on February 7, 2024.
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